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How discouraging thoughts can create resistance for your goals.

We all have them… even the best thinkers run into blocks, and resistance, and old subconscious tapes that no longer serve us, even if they did in our youth.  These old tapes protected us, on some level.  When you were born, and acclimated to this world, you did not know (or should I say, remember) fear.  You did not know that if you climbed a tree and fell out, that you would get hurt.  You just saw the climbing of the tree will get you to a higher place.  I loved being alone as a child, for many reasons.  I would climb trees.  Not only did it bring me to higher ground where I could see things differently, and see more of the land, but it kept me in a quiet place where I could meditate, think about things that I thought could get me in trouble.  For example, I never felt like I was alone.  I don’t mean that God wasn’t with me, as I knew God was always there.  I felt that I was being watched, and how do you tell that to someone without the fear of being locked up? I can see air, and I have told this to a few people, and some look at me like I am nuts.  I realize that I am able to see this energy, or maybe this is what Dr.Wayne Dyer calls Intention, everywhere I go – eyes open or shut.  Another has described it for me, Dr. Jacob Liberman, in his book “Light, Medicine of the Future” “that air was not invisible, but has a visible energy that could be observed in both particle and wave form.”

As I progressed on my journey in life, I realized that who was watching me were my angels, spirit guides, ancestors, and all that is Holy.  It took outsiders to tell me along the way, that spirit was always trying to get my attention. My own clients pointed out my Empathic gifts. I used them, because that is who I am, but I didn’t always trust its’ messages.  As I accepted this to be true, I realized that others in my family had similar gifts, or “knowings”. And now, I speak to anyone I choose about these things.  So, even though I knew there was an energy, per se, that permeated everything, and that it was at my fingertips to use, I didn’t know how to do that.  Again, in my journey of life, I discovered that the old tapes in my head were no longer useful to me, and instead of protecting me, were actually harming me, and keeping me from my life purpose, and it manifested many times in my finances.  Painful lessons. Still dealing with some of the side effects..

That created discouragement, in turn, created self doubts (lack of confidence in yourself), self worth issues (says it all..), and self doubting efficacy problems (belief you can reach that goal you – imaginarily set? – and sustain in that momentum – that same behavior – that started it all, and can you keep it going?),  in getting done the things that I needed to do to continue in my life’s vocation, and manifest wealth. Whew!  Did THAT sentence wear you out?!  Did me. And will still wear me down if I keep putting my intention in that direction.  Doesn’t make sense to continue in this fashion…hmmm.. And what has all that cost me; past, present, AND FUTURE? Let me count the ways.. Money, time for myself, time for my loved ones, sickness in my body, using things to compensate, over working, over thinking, spilling into my family life, spreading the same rules of self sabotage… not paying attention, hits the pocketbook, unclear thinking, much less focus on a path, wrinkles in face forming, another three pounds… Debt piles, pay it off, piles again, have some money, give it away – good way to stay in self doubt and worth.  No, life meant growth, but not negative growth, because that’s the opposite of expansion.  That’s implosion – not good. Causes stress and disease in the body, manifests into illness, that eventually doubles the expenses to me.  Sounds like getting rid of the blocks is a very good idea! Yes!! Are you ready? ‘Cuz I Am!!!!!

I procrastinated, told myself that it’s others and not me, and all the other self sabotaging thoughts that kept me from fully using my gifts…. that I SUPPOSEDLY thanked God for giving me! I know very well that I helped many people heal, but I didn’t want to do that as a “wounded warrior”.  That created a feeling of not being in my own integrity.  How could I tell others that “this” works, but wondered inside if that was also meant for me.  So, I knew I needed to do  my own inner work, as well.  I remember Suze Orman saying once that she had 250K (I believe) in debt, yet she was doing wealth coaching.  Of course, she turned it around, but sometimes we have to get to a position to see ourselves; therefore, heal ourselves, so we can help heal others.  I always see myself in all that I tell my clients, and in all that I read.  I take action, then.  If you have been divorced, you CANNOT talk to someone about divorce without seeing your own divorce, and the pain that caused. You can’t unsee. Once you become aware of the blocks in your life that keep you from manifesting – health, wealth, and true joy – and change their destructive thinking patterns, then can you fall into a deeper understanding of what Dr. Wayne Dyer calls the 7 faces of Intention, from his book, “The Power of Intention”.  They are:

  1. Creativity
  2. Kindness
  3. LOVE
  4. Beauty
  5. Expansion
  6. UNLIMITED Abundance
  7. RECEPTIVITY

There is no 1% in the way that UNLIMITED Abundance means, it’s just that – God has no limits to what we ask in His Name, in His Laws, however you describe your Highest Power. Absolutely everyone can make money, if that’s where your focus is.  But, what blocks are getting in your way?  The Law of Attraction has ALWAYS been spoken off, in my belief system as a Christian, and I now understand even better some of Christ’s references – “if you had the faith of a mustard seed, you would tell that mountain to get up and move, and it would”.  “Be not afraid…” “Before you ask, I will answer”, BEFORE YOU ASK!! means to me Someone greater than me has been there.Did I paraphrase that good?  Anyway, you get my picture.  The only blocks this energy has, are the ones you put on it.  Remove them and let the energy flow, and as you gain momentum on your healing path, many seemingly miraculous things can happen.  Just crack open the door…just a bit…

Another favorite of mine, James van Praagh, says in his book, “The Power of Love”, “When we let go of anxiousness and self pity, we give the space for love to do its part”. And, Love is the Healing, and Love knows when it’s real; therefore, it knows when false love arrives, too. Be genuine.  Be authentic. James also states in this book, “Everyone is a unique self-expression of the Source (put your Highest Power’s name here).  This self expression is an invisible energy vibration that links each one of us to others.  So whatever is going on inside of you, will extend to others.”

Practice Love wherever you can.  Karma happens

Stress – the body’s reaction to perception… hmmmm….     Would love to hear your positive comments.

Mary EK Denison, L. Ac., Esthetician, Transformational Coach

Rapha-El Alternative Therapies, LLC/BeautifyNaturally Facial Rejuvenation and BodySculpting   http://www.BeautifyNaturally.com

Free 30  minute face to face consultation for BeautifyNaturally services, by appointment only.  612-728-0844.  Phone coaching available: $75.00/hour (hour minimum) plus taxes, by an appointment secured with a credit card.

 

 

 

New Year, New Paradigms

It can be amazing how something can shift in your life, and how you can immediately shift the way you think. For example, I have had cats and dogs for easily the past 40+ years.  They require care, and sometimes lots of care and time,  especially if you get a high maintenance buddy.  I had no idea how that time and care could increase (when you have several animals) until they got fleas because two of them had gotten into a dead rabbit.  WOW! If you’ve ever had fleas in your house, you understand what I am saying.  Not only do you have to spend the next three months, minimum, to get through all the cycles of killing them from your animals, you have to de-flea the ENTIRE house, several times over.  Flea eggs can lay dormant for three months – and they are TINY.  I was truly amazed at how quickly I detached from many items in  my house.  This is because all clothes, furniture, carpeting, KNICK KNACKS, books, shelves, floors, counter tops, and anything in the open, must be cleaned with either bleach, or special cleaning agents meant for that purpose, and because fleas have INCREDIBLE jumping power, you have no idea where they are..

So, once I found out, I immediately started bathing the animals – Oh GOD – while my son made a clean room, and as things were de-flea’d to the best of our possibility, we put our cleaned items in there until we got through the whole house, more than once. I don’t wish this on my worst enemy.  So, I questioned God, for what PURPOSE did You send me fleas?  And, my answer was so that I could learn detachment.  I built a fire in the fireplace that night, and I simply started burning things that I no longer wanted to keep.  I was concerned about passing them on to someone else, and the amount of laundry that this created, not knowing what might have fleas as cats go EVERYWHERE, gave us enough work.  So, I pillaged and burned that night.. I started crying, not because of the loss of items, but because I knew the amount of work I and my sons had ahead of us, and I mourned the loss of time that I had planned on spending on my business.  So, when the answer of detachment to things came to me, I had a new light on what was happening, and I now still continue to purge those things  which no longer have use in my life, or use for the greater good.  There is ALWAYS a silver lining, a spark of Light.

Reflecting on 2016, what desires did you have, or how hard did you work for something but you didn’t get the outcome you were looking for?  I’m sure many of us can relate to that.  I know I can, and had a particular thing I thought could happen – and it still might – but I had to let go of the how and my expectation of how, and that I might not get it. How did that make you feel?  I know I experienced sadness, actually a great sadness, because I REALLY wanted my outcome to happen.  I had a whole future planned around it.  Again, the story may not be completed, yet, for me. I have to honor that part of me, and respect the whole story, my participation, and willingness to simply experience the experience. I have a whole book I could write on it. Who knows, it could actually make me rich, in the end.  I kicked and screamed, and cursed, and apologized, and asked for forgiveness, and cried, and laughed, and felt incredible love. I’m not afraid to cry. As growth is very important to me, I use techniques that I have learned to dig deeper into my subconscious, to understand where the real root lies in me to have created this whole scenario. Somewhere, somehow, it vibrates with some other deep experience.  I use EFT tapping, the Sway test, the Healing Code, Prayer – lots of Prayer, and I look for what the positives in this has done for me, and what was taught to me, and how the love always came like a golden ribbon swirling its way through it all. I am GRATEFUL and gratitude begets FAITH. Certain numbers would appear to me, like 234, 1234, which I am told are Angel numbers, and I am forever finding pennies and dimes on the ground – they jump out at me now.  My daily readings seemed to back up my participation, so I believed that I was to go through this for my greater good.

I encourage you to reflect on the most important experiences you had that made the biggest impression on you, but that might also have created a deep hurt in you.  Honor that.  Everything you need is inside you.  Nothing is bigger than you.  Call on something greater than you, and listen in stillness. You are surrounded by Light, and you are in the middle of a miracle. You are beautiful. You are worthy of love. Love is your birthright.

How can I help?

Mary EK Denison, L.Ac., CCP,  Esthetician, Transformational Coach

Rapha-El Alternative Therapies, LLC/BeautifyNaturally Facial Rejuvenation and BodySculpting     http://www.BeautifyNaturally.com    612-728-0844

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Gratitude

We hear it all the time that we should be grateful for all we have. When we are struggling with a problem in our life, sometimes it is hard to be able to see the positive in it. That can be due to focusing on the fear, instead. Faith is born of gratitude, fear cannot live in faith. Like attracts like; therefore, when we are in gratitude, we attract more positive energy towards ourselves, and our situations. When we focus on fear, we attract more fear and negativity in our lives.

Now, this doesn’t mean you aren’t going to feel bad about a mishap, or have a crisis. You do have a choice how you react to it, though. Sometimes my on-the-spot reaction can be one of internal; therefore, external intensity, but it truly doesn’t do anything to make the situation better. Many times I have to back myself off until the chemistry of my emotions settle down. It is possible that I may not have full information about a situation, or I had expectations that weren’t met. It has happened that when plans have changed on me, it has been for the better, or the time was opened up for something else to slip in. I trust in God’s Perfect Order, even if I don’t understand it, or I think it is too harsh for my liking. “Bad” things do happen, but even in the worst, it brings empathetic people together. Many times, when a door is closed, a window is opened.

Personally, this year has been a financial challenge. Like others, I have lost work, but being self-employed, there are no benefits for me to fall back on, like unemployment. I have to be creative, and necessity is the mother of invention. I’ve restructured, dropped some types of work, picked up others, and have debted to get done what I felt needed to be done in my changes. For me, a good year is if I can gift my family and friends at Christmas. Well, this year I really wondered if I would be able to do that. I couldn’t really spare using any money that I have alloted for other things to keep my house going. But, I have skills, and I called upon them. One is that I sew. I have lots of material, a machine, and more time on my hands. My family all received blankets from me. Some in patchwork, sunflowers, Strawberry Shortcake, two WWII Army blankets that I covered (to honor the 70 year anniversary of the soldiers who died in the bombing of Pearl Harbor – one lost life because of that bombing was my Naval uncle Donald Kraker). I told my sons that when they are wrapped in their blankets at night, they can give thanks to all those who fought to keep them and our country free. Friends and extended family were given a night of food, drink, music, and firelight. All included my love in doing for them things that would be remembered, and which provided happiness. I Am grateful for having been able to do this. Therefore, no matter the mishaps and uncertainties, I Am having a good year. May the best of 2011 be the worst in 2012. God Bless you all.

Mary E.K. Denison, L.Ac., M.Om, NCCAOM, CCP www.BeautifyNaturally.com www.mitzi.byregion.net