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How discouraging thoughts can create resistance for your goals.

We all have them… even the best thinkers run into blocks, and resistance, and old subconscious tapes that no longer serve us, even if they did in our youth.  These old tapes protected us, on some level.  When you were born, and acclimated to this world, you did not know (or should I say, remember) fear.  You did not know that if you climbed a tree and fell out, that you would get hurt.  You just saw the climbing of the tree will get you to a higher place.  I loved being alone as a child, for many reasons.  I would climb trees.  Not only did it bring me to higher ground where I could see things differently, and see more of the land, but it kept me in a quiet place where I could meditate, think about things that I thought could get me in trouble.  For example, I never felt like I was alone.  I don’t mean that God wasn’t with me, as I knew God was always there.  I felt that I was being watched, and how do you tell that to someone without the fear of being locked up? I can see air, and I have told this to a few people, and some look at me like I am nuts.  I realize that I am able to see this energy, or maybe this is what Dr.Wayne Dyer calls Intention, everywhere I go – eyes open or shut.  Another has described it for me, Dr. Jacob Liberman, in his book “Light, Medicine of the Future” “that air was not invisible, but has a visible energy that could be observed in both particle and wave form.”

As I progressed on my journey in life, I realized that who was watching me were my angels, spirit guides, ancestors, and all that is Holy.  It took outsiders to tell me along the way, that spirit was always trying to get my attention. My own clients pointed out my Empathic gifts. I used them, because that is who I am, but I didn’t always trust its’ messages.  As I accepted this to be true, I realized that others in my family had similar gifts, or “knowings”. And now, I speak to anyone I choose about these things.  So, even though I knew there was an energy, per se, that permeated everything, and that it was at my fingertips to use, I didn’t know how to do that.  Again, in my journey of life, I discovered that the old tapes in my head were no longer useful to me, and instead of protecting me, were actually harming me, and keeping me from my life purpose, and it manifested many times in my finances.  Painful lessons. Still dealing with some of the side effects..

That created discouragement, in turn, created self doubts (lack of confidence in yourself), self worth issues (says it all..), and self doubting efficacy problems (belief you can reach that goal you – imaginarily set? – and sustain in that momentum – that same behavior – that started it all, and can you keep it going?),  in getting done the things that I needed to do to continue in my life’s vocation, and manifest wealth. Whew!  Did THAT sentence wear you out?!  Did me. And will still wear me down if I keep putting my intention in that direction.  Doesn’t make sense to continue in this fashion…hmmm.. And what has all that cost me; past, present, AND FUTURE? Let me count the ways.. Money, time for myself, time for my loved ones, sickness in my body, using things to compensate, over working, over thinking, spilling into my family life, spreading the same rules of self sabotage… not paying attention, hits the pocketbook, unclear thinking, much less focus on a path, wrinkles in face forming, another three pounds… Debt piles, pay it off, piles again, have some money, give it away – good way to stay in self doubt and worth.  No, life meant growth, but not negative growth, because that’s the opposite of expansion.  That’s implosion – not good. Causes stress and disease in the body, manifests into illness, that eventually doubles the expenses to me.  Sounds like getting rid of the blocks is a very good idea! Yes!! Are you ready? ‘Cuz I Am!!!!!

I procrastinated, told myself that it’s others and not me, and all the other self sabotaging thoughts that kept me from fully using my gifts…. that I SUPPOSEDLY thanked God for giving me! I know very well that I helped many people heal, but I didn’t want to do that as a “wounded warrior”.  That created a feeling of not being in my own integrity.  How could I tell others that “this” works, but wondered inside if that was also meant for me.  So, I knew I needed to do  my own inner work, as well.  I remember Suze Orman saying once that she had 250K (I believe) in debt, yet she was doing wealth coaching.  Of course, she turned it around, but sometimes we have to get to a position to see ourselves; therefore, heal ourselves, so we can help heal others.  I always see myself in all that I tell my clients, and in all that I read.  I take action, then.  If you have been divorced, you CANNOT talk to someone about divorce without seeing your own divorce, and the pain that caused. You can’t unsee. Once you become aware of the blocks in your life that keep you from manifesting – health, wealth, and true joy – and change their destructive thinking patterns, then can you fall into a deeper understanding of what Dr. Wayne Dyer calls the 7 faces of Intention, from his book, “The Power of Intention”.  They are:

  1. Creativity
  2. Kindness
  3. LOVE
  4. Beauty
  5. Expansion
  6. UNLIMITED Abundance
  7. RECEPTIVITY

There is no 1% in the way that UNLIMITED Abundance means, it’s just that – God has no limits to what we ask in His Name, in His Laws, however you describe your Highest Power. Absolutely everyone can make money, if that’s where your focus is.  But, what blocks are getting in your way?  The Law of Attraction has ALWAYS been spoken off, in my belief system as a Christian, and I now understand even better some of Christ’s references – “if you had the faith of a mustard seed, you would tell that mountain to get up and move, and it would”.  “Be not afraid…” “Before you ask, I will answer”, BEFORE YOU ASK!! means to me Someone greater than me has been there.Did I paraphrase that good?  Anyway, you get my picture.  The only blocks this energy has, are the ones you put on it.  Remove them and let the energy flow, and as you gain momentum on your healing path, many seemingly miraculous things can happen.  Just crack open the door…just a bit…

Another favorite of mine, James van Praagh, says in his book, “The Power of Love”, “When we let go of anxiousness and self pity, we give the space for love to do its part”. And, Love is the Healing, and Love knows when it’s real; therefore, it knows when false love arrives, too. Be genuine.  Be authentic. James also states in this book, “Everyone is a unique self-expression of the Source (put your Highest Power’s name here).  This self expression is an invisible energy vibration that links each one of us to others.  So whatever is going on inside of you, will extend to others.”

Practice Love wherever you can.  Karma happens

Stress – the body’s reaction to perception… hmmmm….     Would love to hear your positive comments.

Mary EK Denison, L. Ac., Esthetician, Transformational Coach

Rapha-El Alternative Therapies, LLC/BeautifyNaturally Facial Rejuvenation and BodySculpting   http://www.BeautifyNaturally.com

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Awake to Awareness, your Inner Light

For much of my life, I have had cats.  They have ALWAYS AMAZED me the way they do their day.  It seems like they are sleeping most of the time (unless they are kittens who tend to play), or lazily walking around the house.  Before they get up from a nap, they like to stretch their whole body, as if they don’t have a care in the world – and many of them don’t.  But, when they place their FOCUS ON SOMETHING, they are very much aware what is going on.  For instance, there have been times when a bird has fallen into my fireplace (I keep a screen around it) and my hunter will stay in front of it for hours, just waiting.  Totally AWARE.  Totally ALERT. Totally focused and fixated.  In order for me to save the bird, I have to lock the cat up in another room, open the front door and try to chase the bird in that direction.  Eventually, I WIN.  I Am totally aware of the bird, at all times.  I Am totally focused, for if I wasn’t, I may not see that the bird flew into a different room instead of out the door.  Only after the bird is safe does the cat get let out.  She is still aware, but also knows that there is nothing to be fixated on any longer.  Then she goes and attends something else, usually on her food.  Then back to napping. The other thing I’ve noticed about cats (or dogs) is that even though they seem to spend a fair amount of time resting, when duty calls, they are totally alert and READY FOR THE JOB AT HAND.  And, they stay with that job until it is done.

Animals have high instincts, but they cannot ENVISION THE FUTURE, like we can.  At least we are CAPABLE of envisioning a future providing we place our ATTENTION on one.  Some people walk around ‘asleep’ for most of the time, half heartedly doing their ‘job’, but not in a RESTED STATE.  As a matter of fact, many are in a stressed state, and aren’t able to envision their future, for whatever reason.  Or, they envision a future that mirrors the state they are currently in.  By keeping themselves in a negative vibrational state, they attract the same type of energy. Half-hearted awareness can create confusion, dullness, and cause us to misunderstand the world around us.  A person who has awareness is more CALM AND PRESENT  because they CAN envision a BRIGHTER FUTURE.  They have CLARITY.  They have PURPOSE.  They can FORMULATE PLANS from their desires, and carry those plans out. Their awareness SHINES LIGHT on their future.  It’s as if your mind were a light bulb and awareness provides the current to turn it on.  I Am sure most of you have seen in cartoons whenever someone has an idea it is shown by a lightbulb turning on over their head.  They became ‘aware’ of an idea.  THOUGHTS ARE THINGS, when you place YOUR CONTINUED ATTENTION on it.  A thought follows another thought, and those thoughts continue to work on the idea as long as you keep YOUR DESIRE AND PERSISTENCE on that idea. COMMITMENT coupled with FAITH IS KEY.  When you are committed, PROVIDENCE TAKES OVER and provides you with the means to carry it out.  People come into your path, money shows up, doors open.  It may not be in the timeframe that we think it should happen, but IT IS HAPPENING AS IT SHOULD.

Keep your awareness sharp and vibrant (HIGH VIBRATIONS).  Awareness provides THE LIGHT YOU NEED, just like a light in a dark room.  You know when your flashlight’s batteries are low because the light becomes dim; therefore, the objects around you aren’t as clear and may even look like something else, altogether.  Keep the batteries of your mind new.  Place focus on your thoughts.  Don’t let mindless chatter, or worry rob you of the energy that you could be using for greater things.  Whatever you are doing right now, DO IT WITH GREATNESS.  OBSERVE WITHOUT JUDGEMENT.  When my mind moves into ‘cerebral chatter’, I visualize an aquarium tank filled with colorful fish swimming around.  The fish are my thoughts, and the aquarium is my mind.  Instead of trying to follow one moving fish, while another swims past and catches my eye, I just watch them all swim around, enjoy the colors and move into a ‘ZEN’ like state.  Once I AM CALM, I Am able to refocus and place my thoughts on one idea.  From there, I BUILD.

Mary E.K. Denison, L.Ac., M.Om, CP, www.BeautifyNaturally.com  www.mitzi.byregion.net